Attending a Cocktail Attire Wedding? Here's What You Should Wear

If you're attending a cocktail dress code wedding and feel lost about what to wear, you're not alone. Though it's one of the most popular wedding dress codes, it can sometimes be challenging to decipher. Can you wear a long dress for cocktail attire? Or does a cocktail dress have to be short? Does cocktail attire mean a jacket is required? No matter your question, we've got you covered. With the help of a few experts, we're explaining exactly what cocktail attire means and how to accessorize the dress code like a pro. We've also handpicked some standout wedding cocktail attire options you can shop on the spot, along with a few top-notch retailers to visit should you want to keep browsing. Double check the couple's wedding website to make sure you've got all the dress code details down, then keep scrolling to put together the perfect wedding guest 'fit.

In this article:

• What Is Cocktail Attire?
• Cocktail Dress Code Etiquette
• Cocktail Wedding Attire Variations
• Men's Cocktail Attire for Weddings
• Women's Cocktail Attire for Weddings

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What Is Cocktail Attire?

Cocktail attire means wearing something more elevated than semi-formal attire but less dressy than formal attire. In other words, a suit and tie or well-tailored blazer and dress pants are preferable for men, while jumpsuits and mini, knee-length and midi cocktail dresses are great options for women. This is a dress code that comes with quite a variety of options, so let the vibe of the event dictate which direction you go. If you find yourself confused about what to wear as a guest to a cocktail wedding, allow the invitation to give you clues. "Start with the location, time of day and time of year," says Greg Shugar, co-founder of The Tie Bar. "All three should give you clues right away." For example, it'd be perfectly appropriate to lean into bright colors and lightweight fabrics like linen for a seaside ceremony, but an evening wedding at a five-star hotel would likely call for deeper hues and richer textures.

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Cocktail Dress Code Etiquette

As mentioned, the outfit you choose can depend heavily on the location and vibe of the wedding you're attending. That said, there are a few guidelines you'll want to keep in mind when it comes to rules for a cocktail dress code.

Dress Length

There's quite a bit of contradicting advice out there about the length a cocktail wedding guest dress is supposed to be, but we're here to set the record straight. "For women, cocktail attire typically means a mini, knee-length or midi dress," says bridal fashion stylist Gabrielle Hurwitz. So while a cocktail dress doesn't have to be short, it absolutely can be. The only thing you may want to steer clear of is a floor-length dress, as that would be more appropriate for a formal or black-tie wedding.

Cocktail Dress Alternatives

If you're not a dress person, don't fret—there are plenty of other options you can wear instead of a cocktail dress. Women's suits are an excellent (and on-trend!) alternative, as are jumpsuits and pantsuits for wedding guests. Just be sure that whichever one you choose follows the formality required of a cocktail dress code. "Avoid more casual fabrics like cotton and instead opt for more evening-appropriate fabrics like a silk satin, silk chiffon, jacquard, or even something beaded and embellished," says Hurwitz.

Suit and Tie

Typically, a cocktail men's wedding guest outfit calls for a suit and tie or tailored blazer and dress pants. That said, you might be able to forgo the tie depending on your final look and the vibe of the wedding. "There's a little more flexibility with the tie these days—like when wearing a turtleneck underneath a sports coat or blazer, or if it's the summertime—but traditionally, cocktail attire means a tie," says Hurwitz. Generally, you can't go wrong with a suit for a wedding in a classic color like navy, gray or black.

Colors

As with many components of a cocktail attire dress code, you've got options when it comes to colors to wear as a wedding guest. "Cocktail attire challenges you to be creative," Shugar says. "No color is off limits." While solid, dark suit colors and classic LBDs will always be a safe bet for cocktail attire, you can easily have a little more fun depending on the location and vibe of the wedding. At a daytime ceremony, for example, don't be afraid to lean into lighter hues and patterns. On the other hand, you may want to stick with deeper shades for more formal venues and evening affairs.

Heels vs. Flats

Does cocktail attire require heels? According to Hurwitz, a flat style is a completely acceptable alternative if you don't want to wear heeled wedding guest shoes. "Heels aren't a requirement of a cocktail attire dress code," she says. "However, if you're forgoing the heel, make sure your choice of shoe is still dressy—like a satin or patent ballet flat or boot."

What Isn't Cocktail Attire Appropriate?

Now that you know what your options are, you might be wondering: What isn't appropriate for cocktail attire? We're breaking down the don'ts below.

Casual fabrics: Unless the wedding will be outdoors or during the day, it's best to steer clear of laidback materials like seersucker and cotton blends.

Jeans: While it's certainly possible to polish up a pair of jeans with a dress shirt and blazer, a cocktail wedding isn't the appropriate time to do so.

Shorts: As with jeans, shorts aren't an appropriate choice for a cocktail attire wedding. Stick with dress pants, jumpsuits and dresses.

Sneakers: For shoes, you'll want to stick with formal options—think oxfords, loafers or derbies for men and flats or heels for women.

Flip-Flops: Open-toed shoes are okay, but flip-flops and casual sandals aren't cocktail appropriate.

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Cocktail Wedding Attire Variations

Let's be real: Wedding dress codes are not always black and white. If you've recently received an invite to a cocktail event, it can be difficult to navigate what to wear. Luckily, we're here to help. Here, we're breaking down some of the most common cocktail dress codes for weddings, and what they mean. Read up on the details, then keep scrolling to shop our top picks for each dress code.

Formal Cocktail Attire

Just as the name implies, formal cocktail attire is a dress code that leans more on the formal side. Unlike a black-tie dress code, an evening gown or tuxedo is not necessary for a cocktail formal event. You might, however, consider opting for dressier cocktail attire, meaning a full-length dress as opposed to a mini or midi-length one. For men, we recommend a suit and tie in a classic color like black, navy blue or burgundy.

Elevated Cocktail Attire

Elevated cocktail attire is often used interchangeably with formal cocktail attire. Similarly, the term indicates a more formal-leaning dress code. Think: somewhere between semi-formal and black-tie. If you've recently received an invite with an elevated cocktail attire dress code, take it as your sign to dress to impress. When in doubt, you can't go wrong with a nice dress or a classic suit and tie.

Colorful Cocktail Attire

If you're attending a wedding with a colorful cocktail attire dress code, plan to sport an eye-catching ensemble for the evening. Chances are, the event will be taking place at a more relaxed location, such as the beach or another outdoor venue. If you're planning to wear a dress, feel free to embrace a festive pattern such as floral or plaid. Likewise, a patterned pocket square can be a great way to add a pop-of-color to your suit.

Evening Cocktail Attire

Like formal cocktail attire, an invite to an evening cocktail event tends to imply a more formal dress code. For this type of event, steer clear of playful patterns that offer a more relaxed, daytime feel, like florals or plaid. Instead, opt for solid-colored pieces in darker shades. Pro tip: Satin and velvet are great fabrics for keeping comfortable while achieving a more elevated evening look.

Casual Cocktail Attire

As we've covered, cocktail attire can either lean dressy or casual depending on the vibe of the wedding you're attending. "Cocktail casual" wedding attire is the time to reach for those slightly more adventurous colors, patterns and fabrics—just be sure to strike a balance between polished and relaxed. If you're itching to wear a tan linen suit or breezy floral sundress, now's the time.

Men's Cocktail Attire for Weddings

What does a cocktail dress code mean for guys? Though most would define cocktail attire for men as a suit and tie, guests have the flexibility to experiment with colors, textures and prints. "Starting with the jacket, go for alternative fabrics and textures," Shugar advises. A linen suit would be ideal men's cocktail wedding attire for summer ceremonies, while a heavier fabric like velvet, tweed or herringbone would be suitable for cooler months. Pair it with corresponding dress pants and a button-down shirt. For your accessories, you can also play with color and bold prints, especially if your suit is more neutral. "There is no color you can't build around," he says. "But the bolder the color, the less of it you should have." If you opt for a printed bow tie, your pocket square should be a solid color that matches the print—or vice versa. No matter your fashion taste, a pop of color will bring excitement to an otherwise formal outfit. Read on for our go-to men's wedding guest cocktail attire, from fun and colorful suits to versatile black and navy numbers.

Where to Buy Men's Cocktail Attire

Now that you know what to wear for a cocktail attire wedding, it's time to get shopping. We've put together a list of some go-to spots for nailing the dress code.

• Bonobos: The cocktail attire offerings at Bonobos are just as plentiful as their casual ones. Here, you'll find a variety of stylish suits in a wide range of colors, fabrics and fits.
• Men's Wearhouse: For a large selection of brands and price points, you can't go wrong with Men's Wearhouse. Whether you're looking for a full suit or a pair of sleek shoes to top off your look, they've got you covered.
• SuitShop: High-quality suits without a high price can be hard to come by. Thankfully, SuitShop has a selection of classic and fun options alike, and prices start under $200.
• DXL Big + Tall: No need to search the web for the best big and tall brands—DXL has them all in one place. Whether you're looking to splurge or save, you'll have plenty of options to choose from in your size range.

Examples of Cocktail Attire for Men

Want some specific examples? Scroll on for 10 cocktail attire options for men, all of which you can shop right now.

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If you're looking to purchase a versatile outfit that will work for a variety of cocktail weddings, this classic navy suit is an excellent option.

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Already have a sleek jacket you love? Complete your look with a pair of polished black dress pants.

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Give your cocktail attire look a little personality and opt for a linen suit in a fun color—perfect for spring and summer affairs.

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A crisp white button-down provides the foundation for a variety of cocktail wedding attire looks. This one's made with no-wrinkle performance fabric that will keep you looking sharp throughout the event.

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A light gray suit is a great in-between option if you feel unsure about the formality of an event—it's not too dressy but not too casual.

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This genius knit blazer has the look of cocktail attire and the feel of pajamas. Pair it with your favorite dress pants, and you're ready to go.

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A classic black suit as beautiful as this one rarely comes at a price point this good, and it's a foolproof choice for practically any cocktail wedding.

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This linen-blend suit was practically made for outdoor spring and summer weddings, and it comes in sizes up to 6XL.

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If you're looking for fall cocktail wedding attire, then this rich burgundy suit is a real winner. Crafted from pure premium wool, this made-to-measure suit is crafted to your unique measurements.

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Play up your look with a fun tie, like this stunning green and blue floral pick. Use code TIEBARxKNOT15 at checkout to get it for 15% off.

Women's Cocktail Attire for Weddings

So, what is cocktail attire for women? It traditionally skews on the formal side—but that doesn't mean you need to wear a floor-length evening gown. While you might want to leave the micro-mini skirt at home, it's perfectly appropriate to wear a midi cocktail dress or something that hits just above the knee. Rather than dwelling too much on the length, consider the fabric of the dress. "The fabric is often the deciding factor on whether a dress is cocktail attire appropriate or not. For example, an above-the-knee dress in a silk georgette is totally appropriate for a cocktail dress code, but a cotton-blend maxi dress would probably be too casual unless it's on the beach somewhere," Hurwitz says.

To modernize the dress code, consider wearing a sleek jumpsuit or chic suit. Guests can opt for eye-catching prints, trendy necklines and vibrant hues depending on the venue, season and overall vibe of the wedding. From formal jumpsuits to relaxed floral frocks, we've gathered the trendiest cocktail wedding outfits for women. Best of all, you can rewear any of these picks after the celebration concludes, so it's a win-win.

Where to Buy Women's Cocktail Attire

Now that you're familiar with all the dos and don'ts of this dress code, scroll through a few of our top destinations for women's cocktail attire.

• Lulus: Whether you're heading to a lowkey vineyard wedding or an evening ceremony at a hip hotel, Lulus has all your cocktail attire bases covered. Best of all, many of the dresses ring up under $100, and you'll totally be able to wear them again. Use code THEKNOT20 for 20% off your first purchase.
• Abercrombie & Fitch: The wedding collection at Abercrombie & Fitch isn't just for brides. You'll also find plenty of on-trend, cocktail-appropriate dresses, ranging from silky midis to ultra-fun above-the-knee options. We love that there are so many styles available in petite, tall and plus sizes.
• Reformation: Reformation is practically synonymous with cute, on-trend cocktail dresses. You'll find lots of pretty prints and solid colors alike, plus many options in petite and plus sizes.
• REVOLVE: This cult-favorite online retailer is a one-stop-shop for of-the-moment cocktail attire looks. From dresses guaranteed to earn compliments to the perfect shoes, bags and jewelry to pair with them, REVOLVE has it all—and at a wide range of price points, too.

Examples of Cocktail Attire for Women

Looking for specific shopping recommendations? Scroll ahead for a few of our favorite cocktail wedding attire looks for women.

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Silky black fabric and a midi length make for a foolproof cocktail wedding guest dress.

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Match the vibes at a spring garden party wedding with a flowy, floral number. This blue midi-length option is available in petite, regular and tall sizes.

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Sleek and sophisticated in a classic navy blue hue, this is a dress you'll turn to again and again. Plus, you can wear it with or without the spaghetti straps.

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If you prefer a shorter style, opt for one with added interest like bold floral appliques and puff sleeves.

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With its wrap silhouette and silky material, this dress will look fabulous at an elevated cocktail event. Pair it with solid pumps for a classic look you're sure to love.

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Cape sleeves give this classic black sheath dress extra flair and a little arm coverage.

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The sunny yellow shade, silky fabric and puff sleeves make this cocktail wedding outfit a no-brainer for summer affairs.

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Puff sleeves, a high neckline and polished buttons give this dress a sophisticated look, while a bold print and mini length keep it feeling fun.

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Wedding guest jumpsuits are a perfect alternative to dresses. With its square neckline and figure-flattering fit, you'll wear this black Lulus option again and again.

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Made-to-order women's suits don't have to break the bank. This gorgeous seaglass green style rings up just under $400 and will become a favorite for years to come.

Additional reporting by Sarah Hanlon and Sofia Deeb.