115+ Creative and Romantic Conversation Starters for Couples

Whether you've celebrated a slew of anniversaries with your partner or you're still getting to know each other, there's always space to grow in your relationship. Conversation starters for couples can help you build a connection and communicate your feelings. And they're just as important when things are going well as when challenges arise, says Vagdevi Meunier, a master trainer for the Gottman Institute and licensed clinical psychologist.

"When a couple is in a good mood and feeling connected, conversation starters become invitations to greater connection," says Meunier. She describes these invitations as high-level bids or simple but important gestures for increased intimacy and vulnerability between partners. "A high-level bid shows more curiosity about the person and their internal world and creates safety and space to reveal things about each other," she says.

Engaging in deeper discussions with your partner can help you both feel secure and more connected, but that's not all. "The more we make time for these conversations, the more we create a positive atmosphere that impacts conflict management in a very good way," says Meunier. Being able to have vulnerable conversations with each other will help you navigate conflict and bond more easily.

Ready to enhance your relationship? We've brainstormed over 115 ideas that are perfect for dinner dates, road trips, pillow talk and beyond. From lighthearted prompts to deeper discussion topics, these good conversation starters for couples will get you talking.

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In this article:

• Conversation Topics for Couples
• Deep Conversation Starters for Couples
• Fun Conversation Starters for Couples
• Intimate Conversation Starters for Couples
• Romantic Conversation Starters for Couples
• Creative Conversation Starters for Couples
• Flirty Conversation Starters for Couples
• Conversation Starters for New Couples

Conversation Topics for Couples

We've compiled a list of the best conversation topics for couples, from fun and flirty prompts to deep and intimate questions. Each is designed to spark interesting and productive discussions, no matter your relationship stage.

Deep Conversation Starters for Couples

Want to dive right into the important discussions? Here are some great conversation starters for couples who want to broach key themes, like family values, future goals and finances. These deep questions make it easier to talk about tricky topics and address potential sticking points in the future.

1. What do you value most about our relationship?
2. Imagine you're feeling stressed. How do you react in that moment and why?
3. What are your short- and long-term financial goals?
4. Is there anything you consider a dealbreaker in a relationship?
5. Do you want to have children some day?
6. Would you rather have a job you love with a lower salary, or a job you don't enjoy with a higher salary?
7. What do you think makes a long-term relationship successful?
8. Do you believe in love at first sight or the existence of soulmates?
9. Why do you think your past relationships didn't work out?
10. How do you define a healthy relationship?
11. Have you ever been to therapy, or would you consider going to therapy?
12. Who do you think will be the most important people in your life 10 years from now?
13. What does it take for someone to be considered your best friend?
14. Have you ever lost a close family member or friend?
15. How have your parents or siblings influenced you in life?
16. Have you ever experienced burnout?
17. When did you last cry and why?

Fun Conversation Starters for Couples

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Up for a laugh? These playful and fun conversation starters for couples will prompt insightful discussions without getting too serious. Not only are they great for couple conversations, but they can also work for friends and family.

18. What was your favorite class in high school?
19. Do you have a favorite phrase or word? Why?
20. What's your idea of the perfect day off?
21. When was the last time you really laughed about something? What was it?
22. What's the best meal you've ever had?
23. What was one of your favorite childhood memories?
24. What's the weirdest noise you can make?
25. Do you have a favorite funny quote from a movie or TV show? What is it?
26. What's your top funny story of an embarrassing moment you either experienced yourself or witnessed?
27. What was one of your go-to outfits from when you were younger?
28. If someone were to roast you, what would they poke fun at?
29. What song do you play on repeat?
30. You're an alien who's landed on Earth from a faraway planet. What's the first thing you notice?
31. What's the biggest mistake you've made that had a hilarious outcome?
32. What was the worst first date you've ever been on?
33. Can you do impressions of anyone famous?
34. What's your best excuse for getting out of something you don't want to do?

Intimate Conversation Starters for Couples

Sexual wellness shouldn't be a taboo topic, especially when you're in a relationship. That said, it can still be difficult to start a conversation about sex, especially if one or both of you feels awkward. These intimate conversation starters for couples will make it easier.

35. What's your favorite part of my body?
36. How do you determine a good sexual experience?
37. Is there anything I'm not doing in bed that you would like me to do?
38. Do you like to feel in control during sex or do you prefer your partner to take control?
39. Where do you like to be touched? Is there anywhere you don't like to be touched?
40. Was your first time having sex a positive or negative experience?
41. Do you have a favorite sex position?
42. Is there anything I'm doing in bed that you don't like or that makes you feel uncomfortable?
43. What gets you in the mood?
44. Do you feel satisfied with our sex life currently? If not, why not?
45. Which of our past sexual encounters do you like to think about?
46. Do you prefer your sexual partner to be gentle or vigorous?
47. Are there other sexual activities you would like us to explore, such as phone sex?
48. Do you like using sex toys? What are your favorites?
49. Do you have a secret fantasy?
50. How do you feel about lingerie or dressing up for sex?
51. What's your favorite way to cuddle?

Romantic Conversation Starters for Couples

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Whether you're looking for conversation starters for a long-term relationship or you're still in the honeymoon phase, these passionate topics are perfect for date nights and candlelit dinners. Set the mood with these romantic questions and thoughtful prompts.

52. When did you first realize that you loved me?
53. What's your favorite love song?
54. Describe your dream date night with me.
55. What's the first thing you noticed about me?
56. Why do you think we're a good match?
57. What's your primary love language?
58. If we could go on a date anywhere in the world right now, where would you want to go and why?
59. What famous or fictional couple do you think we are most like?
60. How do I add value and happiness to your daily life?
61. Would you rather spend a night under the stars together or in a fancy hotel room?
62. If we could go on a double date with one celebrity couple, who would you choose?
63. What's one thing you hope we'll always do together?
64. Who was the first person you told about me?
65. What does romance mean to you?
66. If we could relive one day together, what would you pick?
67. What do you admire the most about me?

Creative Conversation Starters for Couples

Looking for interesting conversation starters for married couples, new couples and everyone in between? These creative prompts are a great way to spark intriguing and meaningful conversations that aren't too serious. They might seem random at first, but we bet they'll reveal some fascinating things about your other half.

68. What fictional character do you identify with the most?
69. If you could only follow one person on social media, who would it be?
70. Would you rather never have to wash the dishes again or never have to fold laundry?
71. In your opinion, what's the worst thing about life in the 21st century?
72. If you could have dinner with anyone throughout history, who would it be and why?
73. What's the best thing you bought for yourself in the last year? Why?
74. How would you describe me to a total stranger?
75. If you had to live in a TV show, which show would you choose and why?
76. What's your favorite time of day and why?
77. Would you rather change the past or predict the future?
78. Do you have a go-to karaoke song? What is it?
79. If you could only listen to one musician for the rest of your life, who would it be and why?
80. What's your favorite thing about your job?
81. If you were transformed into an animal, what animal would it be?
82. What movie have you seen more times than any other?
83. Who would you turn to in a crisis?
84. What would be your plan of action in a zombie apocalypse?

Flirty Conversation Starters for Couples

Want to spice things up a little? Embrace your playful side with these flirty conversation topics for couples. They're cute, cheeky and a little come-hither, perfect for initiating late night convos with your significant other.

85. Do I ever feature in your dreams? What am I doing?
86. What's your favorite pickup line?
87. Imagine you're meeting me for the first time. What would you say?
88. Who is your celebrity crush?
89. What's your favorite nickname for me?
90. Do you prefer being the big or small spoon?
91. What do you love the most about us?
92. Would you rather hold hands or cuddle?
93. How do you feel about PDA?
94. When did you know you were attracted to me? What caught your attention?
95. What's your favorite photo of me?
96. Do you like it when I wear perfume/cologne?
97. Would you rather give me a massage or receive one from me?
98. What's your favorite type of kiss?
99. If you were an emoji, what would you be and why?
100. What gets your heart racing?

Conversation Starters for New Couples

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If you just started seeing each other, diving into big topics might feel intimidating. That's why we're sharing the best conversation ideas for couples in a new relationship. Learn about each other's interests, values and ambitions with these conversation starters for new couples.

101. What activities make you lose track of time?
102. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
103. What are the top three items on your bucket list?
104. You have a million dollars to spend on either your dream home or a trip around the world. Which do you choose?
105. What's your favorite thing about being in a relationship, and what's your favorite thing about being single?
106. What's the best gift you ever received? What made it the best?
107. When you were growing up, what values were most important in your family home?
108. What was your biggest childhood dream, and how does that compare to your goals now?
109. Which family member do you most look up to and why?
110. What's the craziest thing you've ever done on a night out?
111. How do you like to celebrate your birthday?
112. What's the last book you read and what did you think of it?
113. If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
114. What's the biggest fear you have overcome in your life so far?
115. When do you feel the most relaxed?
116. Have you ever met someone famous?
117. What's your favorite season and why?

Naoimh O'Hare contributed to this article.