Everything an Enneagram 4 Needs to Know About Love & Compatibility

Enneagram 4 is known as "The Individualist" or "The Romantic." And with a moniker like that, it's no wonder that this personality type is curious about their Enneagram 4 compatibility and potential perfect matches. But there's so much more to these ultra-creative, energizing beings.

Many use the Enneagram system, a popular typology with nine different personality types, to better understand their own or their partner's strengths, motivations and core needs—and how to best navigate their intimate relationships and find lasting, fulfilling love. (If you still don't know what your Enneagram is, Truity's free Enneagram test is one of the most popular in the US and is even psychologist-reviewed. You can take it here.)

Below, we've broken down the world of Enneagram 4 compatibility for you to get a better understanding of the makeup of a Type 4—from personality traits and communication styles to what they like most in the bedroom.

In this article:

• Enneagram 4 Traits and Personality
• Enneagram 4 Communication Style
• How Enneagram 4 Is in a Relationship
• Enneagram 4 in the Bedroom
• The Most Compatible Enneagrams for Type 4

Enneagram 4 Traits and Personality

Enneagram 4s are true empaths. They are authentic and deeply caring individuals who see most things for the bigger picture, versus a "right now" mentality. They are sensitive but self-aware, as well as genuine and authentic—and they often won't engage with those who aren't. (Their Spidey senses can pick out a phony from miles away.) And while an Enneagram Type 4 usually feels their emotions intensely, they often don't present with intense personalities.

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Sometimes they can be a bit self-conscious or overly sensitive, so those closest to them should know how to navigate when and if this happens. Overall, they thrive on affirmation, love and reassurance, and revel in all things romantic.

Enneagram 4 Communication Style

When communicating with an Enneagram 4 you can expect thoughtful and introspective dialogue. They aren't afraid of tough conversations and are empathetic to others' problems and concerns, while also finding creative ways to problem solve. They value authenticity and honesty in communications, regardless of the topic or the setting—and they aren't afraid to be the first ones to initiate a convo either.

How Enneagram 4 Is in a Relationship

In relationships, Enneagram 4s are empathetic and great listeners, fulfilling the role of nurturing listener and playful mate. Type 4s make for really supportive partners and are adept at continually making their partners feel loved and adored. They can, at times, get a bit caught up in their emotions—but their sensitivity should be seen as a strength, not a weakness.

From their partners, Enneagram 4s long to feel understood and appreciated, but not in overtly tangible ways. They're all about vibes: security, empathy and comfort.

Enneagram 4 in the Bedroom

When it comes to what goes on behind closed doors, Enneagram 4s are passionate lovers which stems from their love of all things romance. Think music, champagne, lingerie, flowers… The whole 9 yards.

They crave connection in the bedroom just as much as they do outside of it, though sometimes they may be too deep in their feelings to get into the right headspace for sex—and that's perfectly fine. Because their love language is often quality time, they love taking things slow, meeting their partner's needs and enjoying every second.

The Most Compatible Enneagrams for Type 4

So who might be best suited to pair up romantically with an Enneagram Type 4? Because of their affinity for all things romance and love, Type 4s can make for great partners with most other Enneagram types, especially the ones below. Of course, this doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship outside of these pairings. The matches below are just popularly thought to be compatible due to the traits typically associated with the Enneagram types.

Enneagram 4 and Enneagram 5

A relationship between an Enneagram Type 4 and an Enneagram Type 5 will have emotional complexity and deepness, and their days filled with thoughtful words and actions and frequent expressions of feelings. Neither will have to wonder where they stand with one another: When "The Individualist" and "The Investigator" are in love, there's a unique connection and understanding that which a healthy and strong relationship can be built upon.

Enneagram 4 and Enneagram 2

When Enneagram Type 2s join forces with Type 4s, magic can happen. Together, "The Individualist" and "The Helper" have met their emotional match, as a Type 4's emotional intensity can be balanced out by a Type 2's nurturing nature. Their connection is deep and their communication strong.

Enneagram 4 and Enneagram 9

The easygoing and calm nature of Enneagram Type 9 blends quite well with the intensity an Enneagram 4 can bring into a romantic relationship. As they are both in tune with their strengths and weaknesses, as well as those in their partnership, Type 4s will continually work to keep the spark going while Type 9s, "The Peacemakers," provide a calming and nurturing home base.