Everything an Enneagram 9 Needs to Know About Love & Compatibility

With a name like "The Peacemaker," Enneagram 9 personality types typically make for supportive, loving partners, one could assume. And they'd be right! But who are the best matches for these drama-free folks, according to Enneagram 9 compatibility?

Many use the Enneagram system, a popular typology with nine different personality types, to better understand their own or their partner's strengths, motivations and core needs—and how to best navigate their intimate relationships and find lasting, fulfilling love. (If you still don't know what your Enneagram is, Truity's free Enneagram test is one of the most popular in the US and is even psychologist-reviewed. You can take it here.)

Here's the lowdown on the makeup of an Enneagram 9—including Enneagram 9 traits, how they typically communicate and Enneagram 9 compatibility.

In this article:

• Enneagram 9 Traits & Personality
• Enneagram 9 Communication Style
• How Enneagram 9 Is in a Relationship
• Enneagram 9 in the Bedroom
• The Most Compatible Enneagrams for Type 9

Enneagram 9 Traits & Personality

Being around an Enneagram 9 is a lot like a soothing cup of tea or putting on your favorite sweatshirt. They offer peaceful, calming vibes, and you won't often find them stressed or engaged in unnecessary drama. Instead, they embrace harmony and an open mind.

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They look at things through a wide lens and don't get hung up on the small details or worry about what-ifs. This aversion to tension though could lead them to fear or avoid conflict, as well as to procrastination or indecisiveness in the name of keeping the peace.

Enneagram 9 Communication Style

When it comes to communication, Enneagram 9s are known to avoid conflict. They'll do anything to keep the peace, but putting others' needs and wants ahead of their own can be detrimental in both friendships and relationships. When communicating with a Type 9, keep this in mind and make sure they feel comfortable sharing their true opinions.

Enneagram 9s also make great mediators, give thoughtful advice and are excellent listeners.

How Enneagram 9 Is in a Relationship

Enneagram 9s make for super supportive partners. They are patient, intuitive listeners and really live up to their nickname of The Peacemaker. Usually, they're the laid-back, easy-going one in the relationship and are great at providing a safe space where their partners can feel loved and cared for.

Unfortunately, they won't always assert themselves as best they can, and may need encouragement to speak up or speak out when situations call for it. When conflict arises in the relationship, chances are they won't be the ones to call it attention to first.

Enneagram 9 in the Bedroom

Intimate, connected and emotional are all words that can describe an Enneagram 9's sensual preferences. They value security, closeness and intimacy in their lovemaking, although they're less adept at articulating their wants and needs. Encourage open communication around sex and sexuality to ensure everyone's needs are being met.

The Most Compatible Enneagrams for Type 9

Compatibility is one of those things that truly depends on each individual and relationship. But generally speaking, according to the Enneagram world, certain personality types supposedly pair better than others.

Enneagram 9 and Enneagram 7

A romance between Enneagram Type 9 and Enneagram Type 7 isn't exactly an opposites-attract-type scenario—but it does have elements of one. While Type 9s are peaceful and easygoing, Type 7s are the life of the party and seek adventure and new experiences. A partnership between these two will create a balance that can bring an Enneagram 9 out of their comfort zone.

Enneagram 9 and Enneagram 2

A romantic relationship between the Enneagram "Peacemaker" and "Helper" just sounds so darn good—and it's even better in reality. Type 2s are nurturing by nature, always willing to go out of their way to lend a helping hand. Meanwhile, Type 9s value deep connection and comfortability above all else. When you put them together, it's feel-good vibes all the way. Just be sure that neither partner is avoiding conflict or tip-toeing around necessary conversations. (Both share an aversion to drama and conflict.)

Enneagram 9 and Enneagram 1

Last but certainly not least, pairing an Enneagram 1 and Enneagram 9 together can result in a harmonious, peaceful relationship with open communication and excellent work/life balance. With Type 9s being so easygoing, a Type 1's strong sense of responsibility and achievement will complement them quite nicely.